Are you making the right decisions?

Every moment of our life is a moment of decision making. At each and every step , we have to decide something for the next step. And decisions , decisions leave their impact . Decisions made today, give birth to tomorrow's happiness or sorrow,not just for our self but  for our families and also for the coming generations .

We decide for today on the basis of future.So that we'll be happy in the future.Future is nothing but the result of today's decisions and deeds .If we are satisfied with our decisions today and have the confidence that we made the right decision ,then we can expect happiness in the future.We are always trying to make decisions today for a happy future. Reflect upon your own life.Don't most of your decisions take the future into consideration? And why shouldn't they?Attempting to make one's life happy and smooth is everyone's right.But nobody knows the future.It can only be imagined.Therefore,all the important decisions of life are based on imagination ! Could there possibly be a third path to decision making?
Yes there is .

The basis of all happiness is Dharma . And Dharma resides in a person's heart. So,before every decision do ask your heart if this decision is born out of selfishness or Dharma? Isn't that enough?Instead of the future if we consider Dharma ,won't the future be happier? Decisions based on Dharma are based on compassion and love for everyone , They are based on the five pillars of Dharma-justice,love,knowledge,dedication and patience.

When faced with a dilemma , our mind becomes disturbed and full of uncertainty. That moment of decision making becomes a battle and our mind becomes a battlefield. We make most of the decisions not to solve the problem but only to make our minds and souls calmer. But can we eat while we are running?No. So can a mind which is battling, make a right or worthy decision? In reality , when people make decisions with a calm mind , they make a happy future for themselves but when people make decisions to calm their minds, they are sowing the seeds for a difficult future.

So, next time when you have to make a decision , calm yourself first and ask your heart what will be the right thing to do and you shall have the right answer...

The value of Trust !

My mother is a teacher by profession and that too a strict one .Since my childhood ,i remember her being strict with me always.But as i grew older , she started changing and i wondered why ? Today i have the answer to this question .
She changed to build my future.
The most important thing she taught me is the value of  "trust" . Whether its a night out with friends ,or a party(when i have an exam on the next day) or any other such thing for which the general response is "No".
My mom's answer was one of these -"why are you asking me,it's your life ,you decide " or " yes ,go for it,I trust you completely , i know whatever u decide to do will be right".
No one other than me can understand what a huge impact these two statements had on my life.
It taught me the value of trust . Rules and restrictions can bind kids only as long as they are in front of your eyes but once they leave their home . Once they begin their journey of exploring this world with endless possibilities and no restrictions , the only thing that will stop them from doing things that you don't want them to do is your trust. Because they know in their hearts that you trust them so much and then the love they have for you will stop them from going on the wrong path.
It helped me develop the virtue of responsibility , since i knew that if something goes wrong in the future because of the decisions i make today , it will be my responsibility . I wont be able to blame anyone other than myself . She taught me to live life my way so that when i turn back and look and if i feel there was something wrong somewhere, then i wont regret it blaming someone else for it  . I will in fact learn from it since i made that mistake and we all know that the lessons we learn from our own experiences are much closer to our hearts and stay with us longer than the ones learned from someone else's experience .







As a result i never lied to her , never hid anything from her . I became one of those lucky girls whose best friend is their mom.
 Whenever i ask her a question regarding some decision i have to make , she advises me but she never forces me to abide by that. In the end its always my decision . Maybe that's the reason peer pressure and other temptations could never make me do things that i would regret later . She made me independent .
Of course every parent wants to secure their child's future which often leads them to make decisions on behalf of their kids "all the time" . But what do we know about the future? Not everything is in our hands . You never know what will happen tomorrow . So isn't it better if we try to build our child's character rather than future . We all know people with strong character do great things . They make their own future.They make their own destiny.
I feel proud to say that my mom is the coolest mother i know . She is my idol ,my mentor,my adviser and my best friend.









A VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU MA !

What is Dharma ?

In Hinduism, Dharma is seen as the cosmic law both upheld by the gods and expressed in right behaviour by humans, including adherence to the social order. In Buddhism (termed dhamma), it is interpreted as universal truth or law, especially as proclaimed by the Buddha. In Jainism, it is conceived both as virtue and as a kind of fundamental substance, the medium of motion


Everybody thinks about Dharma once in a while. Sometimes it is regarding their own Dharma , at other times regarding someone else's Dharma . We often talk and think about the Adharma done to us by others .
By all this i mean to say all of us think about Dharma . But do we actually know what Dharma is?

Dharma is what gives us the knowledge to live in harmony with everyone and everything around us. This is the reason why people feel peaceful at places that are related to Dharma like a temple , a Church etc. isn't this your experience too? Meaning Dharma is what destroys all the struggles within us and gives us peace.

But how is it possible that a person has no struggle with another person? Think about it..where there is love,is there struggle as well? You will say yes..But if you think about it more , you will realise that the time when we are having these struggles , love is forgotten ..and then lots of feelings are awaken like anger,ego etc but not love ! Because when love wakes up , all the struggles,fights and arguments are forgotten.
 If this kind of love is found for everyone ,not just humans but also animals,insects,trees,grass and everything around us . If we have love for something as small as a twig ...then do you think there will be anything that can make us angry?
The love we have for a single person , if we have the same love for everything in this universe it is termed as compassion . Love for everything and everyone and nothing else.
In reality compassion is the essence of every religion . If Dharma is a tree ,then compassion is the root .
But time and again , people forget about this essence. They hold onto some rules and traditions in the name of Dharma and forget about compassion . Then this world gets filled with struggles , jealously,exploitation and anger, meaning full of Adharma .

People fight with each other in the name of Dharma . Do they know what Dharma is ? If they knew what it meant then there was no reason to fight. 
But often we consider the people who put love before other emotions as weak , people who do not sacrifice their relationships for feelings such as ego. But for a moment think about it ...who is stronger? The people who let these emotions overpower them and forget about love and compassion , or the people who are ready to bend to let love prevail ! ...what do you think?